Three years ago I was training for a ballet exam, I spent hours a day in a studio practicing my turns and teetering en pointe. I loved it, I was never happier than when I was dancing. I was a bit old for ballet exams but I was determined to finish the syllabus and get my teaching qualification, I wanted to teach kids with learning disabilities to dance, everyone should get the opportunity to enjoy such a wonderful activity.
Since then my mobility has declined, quiet dramatically really. I went from being able to land a good looking pirouette to not being able to walk twenty paces without a walking stick in about six months. Six months after that I was in so much pain I could only stand for a few minutes at a time and had to spend any extended period of time out of the house, including at work, in a wheelchair. Having previously been diagnosed and treated for Lupus I thought I knew what it was. My symptoms had always been mild and I thought it was nothing that a low dose of steroids couldn’t take care of. But my blood tests all came back clear, whatever was causing my symptoms this time was not autoimmune.
I saw many consultants and took a lot of medication and nothing was really helping. Opinions varied from Fibromyalgia to Depression, often followed by comments such as ‘but it is unusual for Fibromyalgia to cause joint swelling’ and ‘you do seem to be of a cheery disposition, you can’t be feeling that bad…’
In February this year I met a Rheumatologist who explained that I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome-type 3 (EDS), and that EDS could reasonably explain all of my symptoms. In fact, the previous Lupus diagnosis may have been incorrect too, apparently EDS patients can sometimes show symptoms like Raynaud’s too (a sometimes painful condition where your blood vessels in your hands collapse leading to cold hands and chilblains, even in warmer weather. It is pretty common in Lupus patients).
The realisation hit me that there was no drug that could make EDS go away. It was not going to get better, if anything it was going to get worse. Complicated by a type of tumour called Fibrous Dysplasia in my right femur bone I was stuck with very few pain relief options and very little information on prognosis.
Missing ballet, drinking with friends and generally being a fully participating member of society I have spent much of the last few months feeling angry.
I have felt angry with doctors for not taking my pain seriously, angry with people who offered help (I don’t want help!) angry with people who didn’t offer me help (I really need help!) and most of all I have been angry at myself. I have been angry at myself for not demanding a quicker diagnosis and better treatment sooner, for not being better at my physio exercises and for not being able to meet the expectations that people have of me (both real expectations and the expectations I imagined).
So I have started this blog as part of a process to feel more like me again. The first step is getting myself more active, and finding things to replace ballet (although I still cling to a hope of being able to at least get through some barre work in the distant future). In September I am taking part in Parallel, an inclusive sporting event, and I have committed to complete 10K in my wheelchair. I am hoping to raise money for a local charity called Wheels for Wellbeing, who provide adapted bikes to allow disable people to cycle (they truely are awesome check them out here: http://www.wheelsforwellbeing.org.uk).
It is going to be really hard and I honestly am not sure how I am going to make it 10K without destroying my hands, wrists, elbows and shoulders, but it is probably going to involve a lot of tubigrips. I will be tweeting and blogging my progress but at current speeds I will take about 8 hours to wheel 10K. Worst case scenario, my wonderful (and very handsome) husband will have to push me around the 10K route at the Olympic Park but let’s hope it doesn’t come to that, I am really not a fan of people touching my wheelchair!
Find out more about taking part in Parallel here: http://parallellondon.com/